Do you ever wonder why there are people who are in your life-lane? They may be judgy, checking their watches when you’re running late, challenging your ideas at the staff meetings, giving you unsolicited parenting advice, looking at you “up and down” as you enter a room, clucking their tongues when they disagree, rolling their eyes when they feel superior. Some may say I have bullies in my life, I think rather, they are mirrors- asking me to change.
Sometimes they don’t quite reflect the mirror image of yourself that you want to see. But they’re persistent, aren’t they? As much as you try to stay one step ahead of them, they will always reign. I’m trying to ask myself, “Why were you placed in my path?” and I’m noticing that what I’m lacking is compassion. I don’t know what you’re like at home, but I know that you can’t be perfect. I can’t be perfect either. What you mirror back to me is a lack of compassion. You see, you may be in my path as a challenge, but all that you reflect is not even close to the negative voices I have in my head.
In contrast, I’m also noticing the positive people who are in my daily path. The older guy at the Starbucks drive thru. He’s always chipper. Yesterday he said, “Hey I’m off in 10 minutes (8am), want to ditch first period together? Meet you behind the gym?” It popped me out of my morning bubble.